Updated: Feb 25, 2020
Because it is so close to the end of the year, on my birthday I often reflect on the year that has passed and how I have changed. 2019 has been magical. With a lot of hard work came the most significant “event” of my life. I have finally found my true belonging. Not only have I found a home in myself at last, I also found it in a community of real friends who have become my second family. Coincidentally (or not?), YEM Home was conceived as a physical home for me to nurture them.
True belonging is interesting. All my life I was searching for it in the wrong places. I was always looking for groups and places to “fit in” so that I wouldn’t feel like the odd one out. But regardless of which groups I thought I belonged to, I couldn’t help feeling like an outsider.
Then around 3-4 years ago, I realized the truth. The only way to belong anywhere is to belong to myself first. I had to start with learning how to feel lonely. I had to work on accepting myself and gradually enjoying being with no-one but myself. I let go of the desire to belong somewhere outside of me. I surrendered and trusted that true belonging would find me whenever I was ready. And then this year it found me, just like a miracle 🧚🏻♂️. Thank you everyone who has sent me love and /or thought of me on my birthday. I am forever grateful for myself, for my first and second families and for you! Happy 2020!